Benefits Once You Remove Negative People From Your Life
The world we live in is vast and evolving and so is humanity and human behavior. As we grow we may learn that all people don’t think, or act alike. In fact, some may display behaviors we find ourselves intolerant of. Sometimes the issue may be us ourselves, or the other person may just be toxic. We need to look at our relationships for repeating patterns, and ill behaviors that bog us down. Other times situations alert us that the person we’re dealing with isn’t willing to look at, or see, how their behavior effects others. Here’s some quick tips to assess when and how to remove negative people from your life.
When To Remove Negative People From Your Life
Negative people don’t always know they’re negative. It’s their learned thought pattern or repetitive behavior that keeps them stuck in the same cycle. A lot of times we will sympathize with these people and try to help them in some way. In doing so we open ourselves up to absorbing some of their issues. We might start feeling down or dreading interaction with this person. They just don’t seem to get it, and it’s now negatively effecting your life.
- They never have anything nice to say
- You can’t stop obsessing about them or something they did
- Nothing is right in their world and nothing goes their way
- They blame others for their problems
- You’re left drained after interacting with them
- They’re always borrowing money
- They manipulate to get their needs met
- You feel taken advantage of
- There is conflict in most areas of their lives
- You start making excuses for their behavior
- They have a problem for every solution
Dealing with a negative person can drain you emotionally, mentally, or physically. Self care is extremely important. When you realize your own feelings or thoughts might be overburdened by interacting with this person it’s time to consider removing them from your life. This can be temporary or permanent depending on extremes. You may even feel guilty for doing this. A break away from the toxicity will quickly remind you why you needed to do it in the first place.
How To Remove Negative People From Your Life
When you remove negative people from your life you don’t have to announce it. If you’ve set prior boundaries that have been overstepped then there is no reason to feel the need to explain yourself to them. Only you can decide what is right or wrong for you and what is acceptable in your life. It is your life!! Some toxic people won’t appreciate the disconnect that you need. In abusive situations this can set them off so you will have to plan your escape from the madness more creatively. Sometimes the break away is done slowly and over a period of time. Other times going “cold turkey” is best for all involved. Negative people in your life can be people you work with, friends you’ve known for years, love interests, or even family members. You just distance yourself and make yourself unavailable to them.
The benefits when you remove negative people from your life are immense. You will find peace of mind and it will feel like a boulder has been removed from your shoulders. It has! You’ve been carrying the load for someone else. The same freeing feeling will happen in your head too. You’ve kicked out the unwelcomed guests and can get back to focusing on your stuff.
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