Tips for Feeling of Frustration and Lack of Control
Have you ever felt frustrated because you have no control over a situation.
I really hate feeling that way, and when I do I have to take a deep breath and just let it go.
I can’t control the actions of another person but I can control my actions.
There are times in life when we can take control a situation. Maybe it’s something that you need to acquire a skill first in order to achieve a specific outcome.
Those are the easy ones!
Tips for Feeling of Frustration and Lack of Control
It’s the times when you are depending on another person that are the hardest.
Maybe that person isn’t stepping up to the plate or isn’t be responsible.
Or maybe they are just plain annoying.
The thing you have to remember is, you don’t have to let other people dictate how you feel at any given time.
OK maybe you might react at first, but you don’t have to.
Tip: Hold your breath and count to 10…
Tip: Go for a walk to think before you say anything. Give yourself a chance to digest and decide what you want to say.
Many times situations that are out of our control don’t need a reaction or an action. Sometimes you just have to realize that you can’t change it so you just need to let it go.
I like to take those situations and pray about them and put them into God’s hands because He know what is needed to fix every situation. I don’t. He’s bigger than me.
Tips for Feeling of Frustration and Lack of Control – with children
Before I had children I was one of those people who’s house was always spotless. When I was a kid there were 6 kids in my family. I always shared a room with my 2 sisters. Space was limited and I had no control over anything. So when I got an apartment. I really loved having my own space that I didn’t have to share with anyone. I could arrange it like I wanted and I could do what I wanted. I kept everything clean and neat. Everything had a place and everything was always in it’s place…
Fast forward to having kids….
I started out trying to keep all toy in their boxes but as time went on I gave up got a big toy box and all the toys got mixed up together. It was too much to try to keep everything separated. It seems that my wanting to keep everything in its box wasn’t a priority of my kids and well…they won. I gave up on it. It wasn’t worth the fight.
Tip: Pick your battles
When my oldest son was 16 he decided he wanted to dye his hair purple…
He wasn’t a rebellious kid, he just wanted to express himself. He actually called me to ask my permission…
My answer was, “you’re the one that has to walk around looking like that.”
So him and his friend bleached out his hair and then dyed it purple. Then they shaved a spiral into it. It looked pretty funny.
The reason I didn’t make a big deal about it was, hair grows back. I figured he’d shave his head completely when he got tired of it and then it would grow back again. That was a battle I didn’t have to fight.
Tips for Feeling of Frustration and Lack of Control – General
Here are 7 tips to consider to help you with feeling of frustration and lack of control.
1. Try to see the other persons perspective.
2. Ask yourself, Will it matter 10 years from now?
3. Determine if it’s worth the frustration. If not let it go.
4. Determine if it’s a life and death situation.
5. Determine if it’s worth fighting for.
6. Decide what you really want, and how will it change your life.
7. Decide to take control and do whatever it takes.
In conclusion you can’t always control every situation. You have to decide what’s important and what isn’t. Pick your battles and go after they things you really want in life. If’s it’s important do whatever you have to do to make it happen. If it’s not important let it go.
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Deirdre Powell (Dee)
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I love it Deirdre! I relate to the hair story. When our son was about 15 he had his ear pierced. It was new for guys to do that then. I had the attitude it is not fatal etc, a bit like hair. We do need to put things into perspecive. A great share thanks.
Thanks for your comment Sue appreciate it. Perspective has a lot to do with things.
Great tips here Di. I think a lot of people will resonate with your post. Counting from 1 – 10 certainly helps and somehow as you get older you become more tolerant. Funny that!!!
Thanks Ann. Yes I think counting from 1 to 10 helps and I think age does make you more tolerant.
So many people over react to everything these days and they are constantly stressed. Great tips.
Very true Sandy, people are overly stressed these days and they tend to overreact.
Deirdre, Great post. Funny how life changes as we get older. Having kids is the most rewarding and challenging experience. Picking your battles really make a difference. If you did a half decent job they will consider you a friend and mentor later in life. In the mean time counting from 1 to 10 works.
Thanks for your comments Earl. Yes counting from 1 to 10 does help!
Oh I have learnt so much from this Deirdre, thanks for sharing.. I used to get soo angry/frustrated by others.. until I realised I can’t control them…
Thanks for commenting Helen. We can’t control others, we can only control ourselves and how we react.
I am guilty of reacting and getting stressed over things that are actually not important. I do my best not to but at times my ‘other personality’ takes over…when I am weak or tired. It’s a constant battle but I am winning now!
I know the feeling Lucie, thanks for commenting.
Thank you so much for this post today.I needed this.
Glad I was a help, Lisa. Thanks for your comment.